Cohabitation

People who cohabitate together are much less intimate than married couples.

-When you’re married, you become one.

-Cohabiting, you never truly give up your full-self

When those who cohabitate eventually do get married, there is a better chance that they will be getting a divorce. The relationship is much more likely to end. Violence is enhanced by nine times in a cohabitating situation towards the women and children.

There is also more likely to have issues with drug use because there aren’t the ties of the family holding people together.

Dating

Dating is not about picking a spouse or reeling one in! It’s about two people changing.

DatingàCourtshipàEngagementàMarriage

Make sure you are doing a variety of activities with a variety of people.

Follow the Relationship Attachment Model—Don’t trust someone more than you know them; don’t rely on them more than you trust them; no more commitment than you can rely on them; and don’t touch more than you can commit to them. “Courtship” means trial.

Principles and Practice Strengthen the Family

         Pay your tithing, use a budget. Make sure you are disciplining yourself and using self-restraint when it comes to money. Teach members of your family the value of work and earning money. As parents we need to be teaching children how to make important money decisions and we need to do it in a way that is easy for them to comprehend. The whole family should be making contributions. We should always be trying to continue our education. Work towards home ownership.

Handling Crisis in the family

1        A-actual event

B-both the resources and responses

C-cognitions

Total--E-experience

When something does happen within the family it is important for everyone to make a positive contribution to help with the crisis. Focusing on family relations and members—connection is important. Breaking down and then rebuilding makes a structure stronger than it was before

Connect

Consider

Consult—are the ways to mend a family crisis. Always turn to the Lord.

Hanging out vs. Hooking Up

This is the idea that relationships are crafted rather than found. B. Chadwick’s idea behind this is that we would be actively looking for a right person not the right person. There are also many steps to a relationship is physical attraction, after comes similarities and interests. Things need to be somewhat consistent with each other, view points, words, thoughts and how the other person makes you feel. There is a specific definition of date; follow the three P’s:

-Planned

-Paid for

-Paired off

Dating is practicing. There are also three P’s for a father and husband:

-Provide

-Protect

-Preside

Hanging out is easy but it’s low commitment, so you should be dating a variety of people!!